7 Great ways to ground yourself

7 Great ways to ground yourself

What is Grounding?

When we are feeling grounded we have a strong connection between mind, body and soul. We feel connected, focused and strong. It offers us a layer of security. When we are grounded we are less affected by the moods, emotions and unreasonable behaviour.

When life throws you a curve ball you field it with grace. It doesn’t knock you completely off your feet. It’s a bit like big, strong, solid trees. They simply sway in the wind without breaking or falling over.

How can you tell when you’re not grounded?

You feel nervous and flighty and find it difficult to concentrate. Tasks are almost impossible to complete. You might be locked in a cycle of overthinking. Making any progress will be almost impossible. You might hoard material goods. You might be an overthinker who finds it hard to get anything done.

So what kind of things help you stay grounded?

Here are 7 great ways to ground yourself.


1.Focus on something for 5 minutes.

Give your undivided attention to something specific even if it’s just the lyrics to your favourite song, or the taste of the coffee that you’re slowly sipping. Or focus on the feeling of your body on your seat. If you’re outside, try listening to the sounds of the birds in the trees, the passing of the traffic, the sounds of children playing in the park.

Wear Red Lipstick to ground yourself

2. Wear the colour Red.

Red is a powerful colour also associated with the Base Chakra or the core of our entire being. Paint your toenails red, wear red underwear, wear red lipstick. Or wear a splash of red, like a red tie or scarf.

7 great ways to ground yourself

3. Just Breathe

Take time to focus on your breathing, take big, slow, deep breaths and as you exhale let go of everything that you no longer need. Imagine it being released into the atmosphere. Imagine every in-breath filling you with positive energy, love and light.

4. Diffuse a Calming Essential Oil or Burn incense

Diffuse a few drops of a calming essential oil in a diffuser. Good ones to try are Frankincense, Lavender or Rose. Burning incense is also very grounding and smells divine.

5. Use a heavy blanket

Use a heavy blanket on your bed to help weigh you down and keep you feeling secure. You can buy weighted blankets but an ordinary heavy blanket will still work.

6. Eat a light snack and drink a warm drink

Having a small snack and warm drink is great for bringing you back into your body and for returning you to your grounded state.

Walk barefoot on grass to ground yourself

7. Walk Barefoot on Sand or Grass

Kick your shoes and socks off and walk on grass or sand for 10 minutes. This allows you to feel any negative energy to flow through your feet back into the earth where it can be discharged safely. It also allows you to recharge with positive energy. Gardening is also very grounding. There is something amazing about getting your hands dirty with soil.

Visualisation to help you ground yourself

Imagine that you have roots going down from the soles of your feet, through the earth right to its core. Firmly connecting you to the earth and its energy.

Visualise a shaft of light from the crown of your head reaching up into the sky, above the clouds and beyond as far as the source of all that is. Feel safe and secure knowing that you are grounded to the earth and all that is in a safe, positive way.

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10 quick ways to make yourself feel fantastic

10 quick ways to make yourself feel fantastic

Here’s 10 top ways to make you feel fantastic! They’re all simple things that make a huge impact on how you feel without breaking the bank or taking ages.  We all deserve to feel good, look great and have a fabulous life. If you find these tips helpful please share with your friends. 

take a shower

1. Take a Shower

Having a long hot shower can be very therapeutic. Wash your hair and condition it thoroughly. Give yourself a thorough pamper whilst in the shower. Use a good quality soap or shower gel and imagine the water washing away any worries and negativity as it goes down the drain. Imagine the shower to be cascading you with golden light, nurturing you and replenishing you. Once you’re out of the shower, wrap yourself up in the biggest, fluffiest towel you can find and dry your hair. Moisturise your body with a good quality body lotion if you have one.

dress to impress

2. Dress to Impress!

Once you’ve had a shower and blown dry your hair, put on clothes that make you feel fantastic. It doesn’t matter if it’s a special occasion or not, wear what makes you feel great!  If you enjoy wearing makeup put some of that one too. Know that you look GREAT!

Stay Hydrated

3. Feel Fantastic Tip: Stay Hydrated

If you stay well hydrated, you not only look good on the outside but you feel fantastic on the inside too. Having enough water helps flush out toxin and waste products, keeps your body in good working order, helps keep your head clear and helps prevent headaches

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4. Don’t sweat the small stuff

In life stuff happens. Life isn’t always smooth and we all make mistakes. Some of which are only minor, others not so much. We can’t change what has happened but we can change the way we feel about things. Only worry about the things you can’t change. If you can’t change it, don’t worry about it! 

look for the good in everyone

5. Look for the best in people.

Everyone has some good in them, even though in some people’s cases it can be hard to find at first glimpse. Everyone is doing their absolute best, given the resources, skills, knowledge and experience that they have available to them.

It can be helpful to view people with kind eyes. This doesn’t mean you can be a complete mug and let people walk all over you, but it does mean that we can look at others in a kind way. 

By learning to be kind to others, eventually we can apply this to ourselves. Often we are our own harshest critics and would benefit greatly for being as kind to ourselves as we are to others.

you are enough

6. Realise it’s never about you!

If you don’t get that job or promotion, or you’re not asked to do something or invited out. Remember it’s not about you. People are looking for something specific (usually what they think they need or want!) try not to take rejection personally. It really is not about you.

balanced diet

7. Eat a well-balanced diet

This doesn’t mean eating half a celery stick for breakfast and the other half for dinner. It’s about getting enough fruit and vegetables and protein, a sensible amount of carbohydrates, tailored to how much exercise you’re doing (or not as the case may be!) But it’s also about allowing yourself to have treats occasionally and to savour what you do eat. If possible eat at the table and take your time.

Try not to eat at your desk/running round the kitchen/in the car on your way to work. Making food look nicely presented can also add to the enjoyment of it. So get out your best china, use those glasses Auntie Joan gave you for your wedding day and make every day an occasion.

be kind to yourself

8. Be kind to yourself

We’ve already touched on this one, but being kind to yourself is so important. Ensure you notice when things are going well, when you’ve taken a step out of your comfort zone or told someone that you’re not willing to do whatever they’re asking you to do.

Celebrate every little baby step along the way. Take a little look back and see how far you’ve come.

Make sure you speak kindly to yourself at all times. Experiments show that pot plants tend to wither and die if they get shouted at and that meme going around saying that people are just pot plants with complicated emotions is so true. If you wouldn’t berate your pot plant for getting something wrong, don’t berate yourself. (If you would shout at a pot plant, you might need to seek help!)


9. Be chilled when you make a mistake

When you get something wrong (which you inevitably will, we all do!) be as calm as possible. If there is nothing we can do to rectify the situation, accepting it and learning from it is all we can do.

As a younger person I once misread a recipe for a tea-loaf and added in half a pint too much tea. Which resulted in a sloppy mess and me feeling like I was a rubbish cook. This is far from the truth of the matter, I am a good cook, I was just having a bad day and I’d just made a mistake!

the future will take care of itself

10. Know that the future will take care of itself

Often we worry about the future, trying to control outcomes and lying awake at night every night worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet.
Usually the future works out for the best, even if you don’t quite get the life you’d envisaged. Often the universe has something better waiting around the corner so instead of worrying about what might be and all the bad things that could happen, remind yourself that everything usually works out well in the end.

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How to cope with the frustrations of being a beginner

How to cope with the frustrations of being a beginner

Being a beginner

There have been a few times recently when I’ve ended up feeling very frustrated whilst attempting to learn something new. Especially when whatever I’m learning isn’t immediately obvious. In the past, I’ve felt proud of myself for being able to figure things out, without too much input from other people. But these last couple of weeks have found me in the position of being a beginner and a struggling beginner at that.

I guess that I felt frustrated because I felt I should know how to do whatever I was learning to do. That I was supposed to simply pick it up like I have other things I’d learned in the past. Intellectually, I love the challenge of figuring things out for myself. Whilst I appreciate that there are plenty of online video tutorials on absolutely anything and everything these days, I love it when I can intuitively figure things out, without having to sit through hours and hours of online tutorials.

A natural..or not?

Growing up, my dad used to tell me that so and so was a ‘natural’ at *whatever* making it seem like you either naturally had this ability pre-installed within you. Or you didn’t. He never really ruled out the idea of working hard to get where you wanted to be, but a lot of his thinking was based around people having a natural propensity for doing x,y and z (or not as the case may be!) I used to love it when he told me I was a natural at *whatever*

Learners Discomfort

As an adult this has got me thinking. There have been times in my life when I’ve not wanted to learn something new, especially if it’s a bit hard (and if I don’t appear to have that innate natural talent my dad was so fond of!) I find it hard being a beginner. There I’ve said it. I don’t like it. It makes me feel uncomfortable and cross and brings out my inner petulant toddler. I want to be good at everything immediately and dislike the process of going from a unskilled beginner to a fairly competent person. 

I’ve been afraid of the discomfort of not knowing exactly which button to press to get it to do what I want it to do. The frustration of knowing how I wanted something to look but the inability to make it happen. And that’s ok, it’s only part of the process we go through from beginner to competent.

How do you cope with the frustrations of being a beginner?

Firstly, be kind to yourself. No one figures everything out immediately. It’s ok to not understand how to use the equipment or the software at first. Especially if the company providing the software or instructions haven’t made it very intuitive to use. 

Secondly it’s ok to play. Often what we need to do to figure out how to move from being a beginner to being a competent person is to play. To see what the software can do. To see what notes we can make out of our musical instruments, or to experiment with ingredients in a recipe.  It’s ok to look up tutorials (if only to keep blood pressure levels down and to prevent incidents of low flying laptops and smashed windows!) 

It’s also ok to make a few mistakes, to reassess and try again. Apparently it took 10,000 attempts to get a light bulb to work in the way we experience it today. No one has invented anything big during the first few minutes of trying. So you don’t have to either. It’s also ok to walk away for a while and to come back to it. When we get anxious or frustrated or close to having a tantrum, it can be hard to think in a logical way. So taking a break, moving around the room, getting some fresh air and coming back to it later are all great ways to help break the frustration cycle.

It will get easier

As I found when trying to recreate a latte during lockdown, it does get easier. The first day I tried creating a latte I got the milk/coffee ratio all out of proportion and ended up with a very weak, milky mess. The second time I tried it I used a larger coffee to milk ratio and whilst it wasn’t perfect it was better. By the third day I’d figured out I needed x amount of milk and y amount of coffee and whilst I was no where near winning barista of the year award, it was pretty drinkable. It still didn’t quite beat the hiss of the proper coffee machine but it was fine. It made me realise that actually practice and being kind to myself were what made all the difference to the whole process. So I would say be patient and kind and you will get there in the end.

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12 Ways to help calm anxiety

12 Ways to help calm anxiety

Ways to help calm anxiety

It is thought that around 6 million people in the UK are currently suffering from Anxiety and Depression, with 3 million living with anxiety. 

Some people have circumstantial anxiety, where a stressful trigger causes a feeling of anxiety. This kind of anxiety is usually fairly short-lived, going away again when the trigger or stress is removed. But for other people anxiety is part of their daily life, and makes doing normal, day to day tasks almost impossible.

So what can be done to help reduce anxiety? 

Here are some practical ways to help calm anxiety  

Distract yourself

Distract yourself either with an app, or with a task or by playing some cheerful or calming music. Set a timer for 15 minutes and go do something else. Useful apps for anxiety include

All of which can be found on the Apple App Store and/or on Play Store

Challenge your thinking

We often believe everything we tell ourselves or totally buy into the ‘facts’ we create about any given situation, so for a second ask yourself if this is just a thought or a fact. Remember thoughts and facts are two very different things and we can with practice change our thinking! 

Write down an ‘if this then that’ list

If you are worrying about a specific thing, try writing down a ‘if this then that’ list. Basically this is stating if *this* happens then I’ll do that…

It gives you back a sense of power and control over the situation. There may be a number of solutions to the problem in hand and if so, list them all. This gives you a range of options to consider, if whatever you’re worrying about actually happens! 

Breathe Deeply

If you find that you are breathing rapidly it can help to slow your breathing right down, breathing in for 4 and out for 7. 

Ground yourself

Here’s a useful grounding exercise. Look around the room and notice

  • 5 things you can see
  • 4 things you can touch
  • 3 things you can hear
  • 2 things you can smell 
  • 1 thing you can taste

Consider if whatever you’re worrying about really is important?

Most things we encounter aren’t really that important in the global scheme of things. Richard Carlson, Author of ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff’ wrote ‘Ask yourself the question will this matter a year from now?’ Chances are it won’t and if that’s the case don’t worry about it! 

Be kind to yourself for the small steps you make

If you suffer from anxiety which often prevents you from doing day to day stuff, set yourself a small challenge each day and then profusely praise yourself for any progress you make.

If going out is uncomfortable but you get as far as the gate, then you’ve made progress. Even if you just make it as far as the door, that’s progress. But then build on that progress and tomorrow see if you can get as far as next door and then praise yourself for that too.


Consider how long the ‘pain’ will last

If you’re anxious about a driving test, exam, job interview etc, consider how long the ‘pain’ of the situation is going to last for. A driving test will probably last less than an hour but once you’ve passed, hopefully you’ll never need to do that again, and the gain from sitting the test will last a lifetime. A job interview also generally lasts for around an hour and again even if it’s very painful the ‘pain’ will go fairly quickly afterwards.

Get rid of unnecessary stress

I remember one day a while ago needing to be at a meeting in an unfamiliar part of a city nearby. For days panicked about getting there, finding the venue, finding the parking, allowing time to get lost, not knowing what I would do if there was no parking available etc etc. In the end I cancelled my appointment and the whooosh of relief was huge. It made all the difference not having to tackle it. It wasn’t life cruical, I wasn’t letting anyone down by not going, and to be able to gift myself the knowledge I just didn’t have to go, was all that was needed to bring my anxiety back down to normal levels.

image of sugar. Sugar can excerabate anxiety

Cut back on Sugary Foods and Caffeine 

Studies have shown that Sugary foods and Caffeine both affect people’s anxiety levels so try drinking water, herbal teas and drinks without caffeine and avoid having a sugar rush.

Have regular Treatments

Complementary Therapies that may help with anxiety include

These all calm and soothe and can help you to relax and feel less anxious. Some treatments can be available as home visits which would be good for those who have agrophobia.

 Useful Essential Oils to help with anxiety

Essential oils are great for helping reduce anxiety. The best ones for anxiety are 

Useful Resources




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Symptoms of Anxiety

Symptoms of Anxiety

 What are the symptoms of anxiety?

 Around 3 million people in the UK alone are thought to suffer from anxiety and around 25% of these are being actively treated for anxiety.

Anxiety can be circumstantial (something actively triggering the anxiety, like an impending redundancy or having to make a speech to a large crowd of people, a job interview or a disciplinary hearing at work) or it can be a longer term condition or not feel manageable. 

Sometimes anxiety can be linked to thoughts or it can just be an independent feeling without any thoughts triggering it. It can also be linked to the Perimenopause. 

Symptoms of anxiety can include:

      • Feeling nervous, tense or restless
      • Feeling panicky
      • Butterflies in your tummy
      • Sensing impending doom
      • Breathing too quickly (hyperventilation)
      • Profuse Sweating
      • Insomnia (trouble sleeping)
      • Upset Stomach/ Irritable Bowel
      • Feeling the need to avoid certain situations/ people/ places
      • Tiredness/Fatigue
      • Trembling
      • Irritability
      • Increased heart rate
      • Inability to focus/ Poor Concentration

When to get help with your anxiety

If your anxiety has been going on for some time or you feel it is negatively affecting your daily life, don’t hesitate to get help. 

Your GP is generally a good port of call in the first instance. 

Alternatively Google “IAPT” and your area, you are able to refer yourself to get help from a team specially trained to deal with anxiety and mental health concerns.


North Yorkshire IAPT has their own website their website is www.northyorkshireiapt.co.uk

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