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Unlocking the Secrets of Vetiver Essential Oil: Benefits & Uses

Unlocking the Secrets of Vetiver Essential Oil: Benefits & Uses

Aromatherapy

Vetiver essential oil has a deep, smoky aroma with rich woody undertones. It has an almost earthy aroma, like damp soil. Vetiver is often referred to as the ‘oil of tranquillity’ due to its deep, calming effects. 

Common Uses of Vetiver Essential Oil

Vetiver is commonly used in products designed to help you sleep, including pillow sprays and scented candles, and in night-time massage blends. It is also used as a fixative in perfumes and aftershaves, as well as being useful in adding a depth of aroma to massage blends and perfumes.

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What is vetiver, and where does it come from?

Vetiver (sometimes called Kus-Kus grass)  is a tall, perennial grass commonly found in tropical places with a good level of rainfall, including Brazil, Java, Southern India, Haiti, Indonesia and Malaysia. The grass itself is often used to thatch the roofs of houses or for mats etc. 

Which part of the vetiver plant is used in making essential oil?

It is mainly the roots and rootlets or rhizomes of the plant that are used to make the essential oil. 

How is vetiver essential oil made? 

The roots and rootlets are washed, dried and chopped before being distilled into a thick deep amber coloured liquid, or the roots are soaked and boiled.

What are the benefits of vetiver essential oil?

Relieves stress and tension, calming

Vetiver is great for calming the nerves and restoring a sense of tranquillity.

Useful for relieving stress and tension, helping you to feel more grounded and helps bring you back into a state of balance if you’re feeling a little out of sorts.

It can help reduce panic attacks and anxiety, restoring emotional balance. It is also good for diffusing anger.

Relaxes, restores tired minds and overworked bodies

If you’re struggling to relax, vetiver may help as it can be relaxing and restorative for tired minds and overworked bodies.

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Soothes sore muscles, eases rheumatism and arthritis

It has a soothing effect on muscles, easing muscle tension and helping with pains and stiffness.

Thought to be useful for easing arthritis and rheumatism.

Vetiver has a gently warming effect on muscles and is also thought to increase blood flow.

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Good for libido, aphrodisiac

It can be useful for reproductive issues and can be used to ease sexual matters, it is also thought to be an aphrodisiac so can be helpful with problems of low libido. Especially useful when either partner is exhausted or feeling stressed, or when anxiety is causing issues in the bedroom.

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Improves sleep 

Vetiver is great for restoring good sleep patterns and encourages deep restful sleep, allowing you to wake feeling refreshed and ready to start the day.

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Good for the skin, helps reduce scars and stretch marks

Vetiver is good for the skin and can help wounds heal, as it has astringent properties (helping to close open pores) so is good for oily and combination skin.

It can also help reduce the appearance of scars, stretch marks and burns. It also has antiseptic properties, making it good for treating wounds, cuts and grazes. May be helpful for acne.

Ways to use Vetiver essential oil

In a massage blend

You can use it in massage, add 2-3 drops to 30 mils of carrier oil such as olive oil, sweet almond oil, sunflower oil etc and massage in.

 

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In your bath

Add no more than 4-6 drops in total to 15 mls of oil and mix well, stir into your bath and soak for 20 minutes. Add a couple of handfuls of epsom salts to your bath and stir well.

Word of warning!

Please DO NOT just chuck a few drops of oil straight in your bath as it then tends to just sit on the surface of the water, always dilute it first with some carrier oil or a specially designed fragrance-free create your own style bath product.

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In a diffuser

In a diffuser. Add 2 drops of vetiver essential oil and 2 drops of orange oil into your diffuser along with the required amount of water and diffuse intermittently throughout the day.

What does Vetiver blend well with?

Vetiver works brilliantly with

  • sweet orange,
  • lavender,
  • frankincense,
  • geranium,
  • patchouli,
  • rose,
  • sandalwood,
  • ylang ylang,
  • clary sage,
  • cedarwood,
  • jasmine,
  • ginger,
  • lemon,
  • bergamot 
  • grapefruit.

Contraindications / Safety Precautions

Vetiver is a very safe oil if used correctly. You may wish to avoid this during pregnancy. Vetiver must always be diluted if used on the skin. 

Where to buy vetiver

https://uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/sjcooper/product/2155L/vetiver-organic-essential-oil-10ml-with-leaflet Please note I will get a small commission from any sales via this link. 

Other posts you might like

Please check out my other articles on aromatherapy on pinterest https://uk.pinterest.com/sarahcooperreflexology/aromatherapy/ 

Here is an article you may like from my blog https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/essential-oils-for-sleep/ 

About Vetiver Essential Oil

Botanical Name: Vetiveria Zizanioides

Method of Extraction: Steam Distillation,or boiling.

Note: Base

Plant Family: Gramineae

Aroma Notes: Smoky, Deep, Grounding, Earthy, Woody. Calming

Chemical Constituents

Veitver is made up of Benzoic (acid), Vetiverol (Alcohol), Furfurol (Aldehyde), Vetivone (Ketone), and Vetivene (Sesquiterpene) 

7 Useful Things I’ve learned this year

7 Useful Things I’ve learned this year

Thoughts

7 Useful things I’ve learned this year

Here are 7  useful things I’ve learned this year so far that I’d like to share with you. Please let me know in the comments below what YOU’VE learned so far this year!

We set our own limits

Have you ever thought of doing something but talked yourself out of it? Or labelled yourself as not a writer, not an artist, not a musician, not good with this or that, and then behaved as if that was actually true?

I know that I have a lot over my life. But this kind of thinking holds us back and limits what we can achieve. You don’t NEED to be an artist to pick up a paintbrush and play at making marks on the page. You don’t need to be a musician to pick up an instrument and bash out a tune on it. You don’t need to be a Michelin-starred chef in order to choose a new recipe and have a go. 

We can also inadvertently create limits on what we achieve and what we reach out for simply by believing that what we crave or need isn’t possible. Some of the things we want or need may not be practical or easy to get. But other people have achieved the things we want to achieve.. 

I would love to write a book, but often think it would be impossible, then I go for a mooch around Waterstones and see that the whole shop is full of books by people who proved to themselves that it IS possible. So I am absolutely wrong, it is possible for me to write a book and have it sat on the table in Waterstones, although it may not be as easy as my childhood fantasy of writing a book in one sitting, pressing print and getting a zillion pounds put in my bank account as if by magic. 

Emotional regulation clarify

It’s ok not to fit in ‘the box’

For years I have been beating myself up metaphorically for not fitting into the same kind of box as other people do. For me, working 9-5 Monday – Friday is an absolute no-no.

That doesn’t mean I won’t work, as often I am still at work at 9.30 or 10 o’clock at night, but do I want to work 40 solid hours in an office? No, no I don’t! Other aspects of my life don’t fit in the box either. And that’s ok.

I’ve realised that I don’t need to fit myself into the same kind of box that fits other people, I just need to find a Sarah-shaped box and be happy that I’m not like everyone else. I like nothing more than working odd hours so I can slope off to lunch with a friend midweek. 

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You hold the permission slip

Sometimes you need to allow yourself to book in for that reflexology treatment, that manicure you’ve been putting off, that holiday of your dreams, that midweek cinema trip all on your own (have you tried it? It’s magical!)

Sometimes you need to give yourself a morning off. The other week, my car was in the garage having its MOT, and so I was stuck at home all day.

Instead of running around catching up with all the boring jobs I had on my list. I gifted myself a whole morning of ‘play time’ (you know how primary schools used to let you play in the afternoons if you’d been good? Yes that!)  It was blissful! I did some writing, caught up with my journaling, made a big pot of soup slowly, made some flapjack and drank several pots of tea. Read some of my book, had a nap. By the time I got my car back I was a whole new person! 

How to be more goddess like set fragrance

You set your own price tag.

How people see you, how they treat you, and how respectful they are of you is more often than not in the first instance set out by you.

If you dress well, look smart and have that air of approachability mixed with a little don’t mess with me, mate you’re likely to get treated with more respect and care than you would if you look thrown together and if you allow yourself to be spoken to in a disrespectful way.

It can be hard to set boundaries if you’ve not had much experience of setting them, but it can massively help with how other people perceive you and at the end of the day how they treat you too.

Having boundaries is important as it keeps you safe, and also sends out a clear message to the other person that you will not be treated with disrespect and that you absolutely are worth treating with kindness and respect. How much money you make can also be dictated by this. 

image of a woman with her hand up showing that she is assertive to illustrate how to be a goddess

The power of saying no

For years I have struggled to say no, even when my heart has been screaming no no absolutely not! But recently I have learnt that no is a complete sentence. You don’t have to explain why you can’t help someone with something.

In fact offering an excuse can cause problems. Many years ago my daughters got invited to go somewhere. They didn’t want to go, but instead of saying ‘no, that’s not for me’ they gave a raft of excuses.

Every excuse was met with a solution to the problem. NO is so powerful. Use it as a complete sentence and move on.

My top tip is if someone asks you if you’re free on Friday, before you answer, ask why? This way, you’ll know if they’re offering a spa day or an opportunity for you to help them clear out their spider-filled garden shed or babysit their children! 

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Changing the word ‘should ’ to ‘could’ makes a massive difference.

Are you like me in that you hate the word should? Should sounds so bossy and forceful, whereas the word could opens up a world of opportunities and gentle invitations.

If you say I should go for a walk, it sounds like a chore, something else you have to do, whereas saying I could go for a walk sounds like a treat. Try it and see how it changes your world.

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Taking time to rest and reflect is so important. Toxic productivity is not

Do you allow yourself time to rest and reflect on how your day has gone, how your weeks are going or how well you’re doing?

Sometimes we can be so busy being busy that we don’t give ourselves time to rest up, and take time to reflect on what is working well and what needs a tweak. If we keep scurrying from one project to another without taking time to sit for a while, and contemplate what went well and what could have been done better we can often tie ourselves up making the same mistake over and over again. 

I often get asked if I’ve been busy as if being busy is the ultimate goal. Take it from me that it absolutely isn’t and this need for constant productivity if left untamed can become toxic. I know the other week I was panicking because for the whole Sunday afternoon I did literally nothing. It was a cold wet sunday, and I was tired so I rested up and felt so much better for it. But sometimes you need to allow yourself time to rest up so you can gather strength to make new plans. 

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Winter Wellness: How to Stay Healthy, Well and Happy This Winter

Winter Wellness: How to Stay Healthy, Well and Happy This Winter

Health & Wellbeing

Here are some useful winter wellness tips to help you stay healthy, well and happy this winter. 

Winter is made for comfort, not for speed!

Winter shouldn’t be rushed, but luxuriated in. 

Winter has a slow, gentle vibe, bringing with it a time of quiet, contemplation before the world wakes again in spring.

It is the perfect time of year to slow right down, curl up in front of the fire with a good book or take long walks in nature if you’re feeling very energetic. By all means, make plans for later in the year, but winter is a time of burrowing away from others and the hustle and bustle of daily life.

It is not the time to be dashing around attempting to change the world. It is a great time to rest, restore and reflect..It’s the ideal time to ‘mend your nets’ or attend to anything that needs sorting or fixing, in a not-overly-energetic kind of way. 

The darker days may make some of us feel a bit low in energy or down in the dumps, but there are plenty of ways of adding a little lightness and magic to even the darkest of winter days. 

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Hunker down 

Have long, lazy mornings in bed and cosy evenings in front of the fire, or tucked up under a blanket. Read the book you’ve bought but haven’t made a start on yet. Watch the stars on the patio, with a mug of hot chocolate to keep you warm. Use the time in the darker evenings to journal and reflect on what has been going well recently. Rest a while. Gather strength, work out what needs pruning out of your life. Wear big fluffy socks and comforting big jumpers for extra cosiness. Stare out of the window for a few minutes, just observing the world as it goes by. 

If you need a little magic or sparkle in your life, try adding a few candles and or fairy lights to your sitting room. Take long, deep baths with dim lighting and lots of bubbles. Look for little glimmers of hope as you go about your daily life.

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Manage your stress levels.

Excess stress and being poorly often go hand in hand so if you want to keep well this winter it is a good idea to keep your stress levels as low as possible. Work out what you NEED to get done in a day and do only that, unless you have energy to do more. Spend time with friends and family, or call a loved one for a chat. Find an absorbing hobby to take your mind off things. Speak kindly to yourself, the last thing you need in the depth of winter is your own voice nagging you.

Massage, Reiki, and Reflexology can also all help with reducing stress levels. If you haven’t already got your next treatment booked in my diary please go to www.sarahcooper.co.uk and book in. (if you’re local, of course!)

image of glass shining on ice to illustrate winter wellness

Look after yourself

Fresh air and exercise can make a massive difference to how you feel during the winter months. Not only is it good for the body, it is also good for the soul.

If you catch up with friends why not take a hot drink and go for a walk, rather than meeting in a coffee shop? If you like, take some photos of what you see on your walks.

I love nothing more than going for a long walk and taking loads of pictures of things that catch my eye. The light shining through the trees, or bouncing off a chunk of ice lying on the ground.

Taking a morning walk can be super helpful for your circadian rhythms – it lets your body know it is morning, which can help massively with your sleep patterns.

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Take vitamin D 

Take vitamin D regularly to keep your mood up and your bones happy. Having too much vitamin D can be as problematic as having too little so ensure you take the optimum dose for you. Speak to your local health food shop or pharmacist for advice about which versions are most easily absorbed. Ensure you take your vitamin D with a source of healthy fat as it is fat-soluble and this will help with effective absorption.

 

See this article for more information on taking Vitamin D effectively https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/vitamins-and-minerals/vitamin-d/ 

Image of a bowl of banana porridge, an ideal winter wellness tip

Eat well and stay hydrated

Pack your diet full of fruit and vegetables, lean protein, wholegrains, nuts, seeds, healthy fats, and water. Eat soups and stews with as many vegetables packed inside as possible. Have a glass of fruit juice each day (only one, more than that can play havoc with your blood sugar levels and potentially damage your teeth) 

If you would like a warming way of enjoying water, try adding a little honey, a slice of fresh ginger and a slice or two of fresh lemon to a mug of boiling water, leave to cool until a good drinking temperature, than sip. Or try spiking a slice of lemon with a couple of cloves and add that to some boiling water with a little honey.

Naturally reduce your sugar intake (NOT by replacing it with sweeteners) – maybe add less sugar in your tea and coffee, and cut out processed cakes, buns and biscuits.

https://www.nutrition.org.uk/creating-a-healthy-diet/gut-health/ 

 

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Protect yourself from bugs

If anyone in your household succumbs to illness, use antibacterial wipes to sanitise touch points like the loo handles, light switches, taps etc. Have a separate towel for every family member. Use organic defence hand spray to keep your hands nice and clean (you can also buy organic defence blend for the diffuser if you want to help freshen the air too)

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If it isn’t too cold, try flinging open the windows to let some fresh air in, even if for just ten minutes or so.

Wash your hands and face when you come home. 

I always wash my hands and face once I have come home for the day. This helps wash away some of the bacteria encountered throughout the day.

Further Reading

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/7-great-ways-to-reduce-your-stress-levels/

 https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/seasonal-affective-disorder/

How to be more goddess-like

How to be more goddess-like

Health & Wellbeing

By goddess-like, I mean how to look good and feel great, to have firm boundaries in place so  you won’t put up with anyone’s nonsense, whilst still being soft and warm and feminine.

It’s about having main character energy and owning the room as you enter it. About standing up and being all that you can possibly be, without feeling like you’re too much.. Of being valued and loved for who you are, not moulding yourself into how society thinks you should be.

About accepting help when you need it, and inviting love into your life, so you feel loved and appreciated. It’s about setting your own price tag and your standards high. It’s also about not people pleasing any more and doing what suits you on your own terms. 

Image of woman holding the word no to illustrate how to be more goddess like

Set boundaries

Set boundaries with your time, your money, your energy, your work and your social media.

With your time, adopt the policy that if you’re asked to do something / go somewhere and your instant reaction isn’t a ‘hell yeah’ It’s a no. Have a few stock answers as to why you can’t do things. Keep them vague – I already have plans that day, I’m tied up, I’m sorry I can’t make it. 

With your money, make sure that you know where it is going each month by keeping check of it. Before buying anything think do I really need this or would I rather have the £x in my bank account? If you find yourself people pleasing with money, like paying way more for a meal because friends want to split the bill and you’ve not had anywhere near the spend that they have had, just pay for your own stuff and don’t feel guilty! 

With your energy make sure you have enough white space in your diary to simply breathe, potter or just be for a while. Work with your menstrual cycles if you’re still menstruating, and with the moon cycles if you’re not.  

At work, know when you need to go home, take leave or have a break. Don’t feel you have to stay on late just because your office has a culture of working extra hours each day. You can be a good employee and still get home on time. If someone tries dumping extra work on you and you really don’t have time to deal with it, set a boundary and let them know that you can’t help them. Lessen the blow by suggesting someone who may be able to help you.

Set boundaries on how much you’re using social media. You don’t have to be constantly available for everyone. It will probably do everyone good for you to be absent for a while. So use social media for your own purposes and take regular breaks from it. 

Keep some of your information a secret, you don’t need to tell everyone everything. Have an air of mystery about you, and share private stuff only with your closest friends and family.

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Be assertive

Know what behaviour you will and won’t accept. Don’t put up with people’s nonsense. By all means find out what is going on for them and see if there is anything you can do to help them but don’t put up with poor behaviour from other people.

If they say they’re going to do something then don’t without notifying you well in advance as to why, then say something. You don’t have to be rude or offensive, you can be firm but kind with your words and get your point across. 

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Make little upgrades to your daily life and routine

Have a pot of tea rather than a cup, drink proper coffee not instant. Have 200 count bedsheets, choose plush fabrics that feel amazing to touch. Drink organic cocoa before bed.

Choose the best quality food you can afford and do as little to it as possible.

Eat your food off a proper plate, sitting at the table. No more running around the house to eat or eating at your desk.

Polish your shoes, wear your best knickers.

Clean your car, and have a nice fragrance spray for your car instead of a tacky, stinky plastic car air freshener. 

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Look expensive and put together

Go through your wardrobe and pick out anything that doesn’t look good, feel great. Donate, sell or ditch anything that doesn’t make you feel like a goddess. 

Keep pieces that make you look amazing and that feel good to wear. Get rid of anything that doesn’t go with anything else or is a bit tatty now. Vinted.co.uk or ebay.co.uk are good places to sell unwanted good quality clothes. If you want to donate clothing and shoes you can go to anglodoorstepcollections.co.uk and arrange a collection time, they come to your house and collect. When buying new clothes choose pieces that go together well and keep them immaculately pressed.

Wear a slash of lippy to complete your look

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Smell like a goddess!

Have a signature scent and use it every day. Fragrance tends to go off if you don’t use it so get a decent bottle of perfume or eau de toilette and use it regularly.

Before purchasing, ensure that it smells good on your skin, as the fragrance can change from person to person and what can smell amazing on one person can smell awful on another.

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Keep a goddess kit in your car or desk

Have a bag containing a tub of toothpaste, a travel toothbrush, some soap, deodorant, and a fresh pair of knickers in your car and or desk, so if you do need to quickly freshen up you can.

Having some hand soap and a flannel to dry your hands on is also a great idea.

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Set your own price tag

Remember that you set your own price tag. Walk into rooms with your head held high, your back straight, a big smile on your face and let people feel your presence. People tend to radiate towards others who have a presence and who command respect. Be that person. If you’re not used to this right now, it can take a bit of getting used to but keep going, you’ve got this! 

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7 Fabulous things to do this Autumn (even if you’re on your own)

7 Fabulous things to do this Autumn (even if you’re on your own)

Thoughts

Let’s make this autumn your best one yet! 

As the nights start drawing in, you may feel the urge to hibernate!  It is the perfect season to retreat into the warmth of your own home, hunker down, and shut the door on the world.

I’m going to talk more about things you can do to make the most of the next few months, balancing the need to be cocooned in a cosy world of your own, whilst also finding ways to have some fun and adventures for a little balance.

Most of the things I’m going to suggest you can do either with your friends, family or loved ones or on your own.

If you’re not used to doing things on your own, it can be a challenge at first. But it does get easier. Take a notebook and pen, or a good book or magazine to read, as this can help you feel less awkward if you are having lunch or dinner on your own.

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Make an autumn bucket list and get some fun stuff booked in the diary

Where would you like to go this autumn? Make a list and see how many you can tick off before winter sets in! 

You could go pumpkin picking, visit an art gallery, a museum, an abbey or castle, a ghost walk, a stately home or garden, or pack an autumn picnic and watch the sunrise or set. Or go to the seaside for a bracing walk and a bag of chips!

Check out listings for pantomimes, concerts and plays. Buy your tickets and put the dates in your diary. Get your massages and reflexology treatments booked in, so you have something to look forward to.

Pack cosy blankets, a flask containing a hot drink, and some snacks and go sit somewhere without light pollution, and drink coffee or hot chocolate under the stars. Or get a food flask and take some hot soup (don’t forget to preheat the flask with boiling water and tip out before adding your soup) If it’s a nice night, take camping chairs and sit outside.

Or gather some friends around and have jacket potatoes and homemade tomato and red pepper soup, build a fire pit and toast some marshmallows, whilst telling stories around the fire. 

Try going to the cinema one weekday afternoon, on your own or with a friend and watch the first film showing! These days you can take wine or coffee into the cinema with you. Some places will even bring you pizza or snacks to your seat.

Or on a cold, wet day, why not make some homemade popcorn, put on a movie and curl up under a blanket in front of the fire if you have one! 

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Create a cosy nook

Do you have a dedicated space to get cosy when the rain is blashing down the windowpane? If not, maybe now is the time to create one.

Gather up some comfy cushions, some snuggly warm blankets, a candle or warm lamp, and some fluffy socks if you’re into that kind of thing. You could include a heated throw, a hot water bottle or a heat pad. Ensure the lighting is bright enough to read by but not glaringly bright.

Get some fairy lights and string them up to make the space seem even more magical. Or if writing or art are more your thing, create yourself a cosy writing or creation station, have all your favourite pens, pencils and notebooks to hand so you can simply create when the mood strikes

If you love hot chocolate you could make yourself a hot chocolate station with mugs, hot chocolate powder, marshmallows and sprinkles, and a nice tin of biscuits.

Fancy having a crafty Christmas? 

Start creating a box of Christmas gifts for your loved ones. You could craft things out of air-dry clay. All you need for this is some air-dry clay, some simple tools, some acrylic paints to decorate your item once they’ve dried and an air dry clay sealant. 

If you like art, why not make some bookmarks, or paint pictures for your loved ones? You could get a simple frame and mount to complete the look. You can buy cellophane and ribbon to elevate the look of even the simplest of gifts.

Or go to FreePrints https://www.freeprintsapp.co.uk/ and print out your favourite photo of your loved one, frame it, and give it to them. 

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Take up cosy hobbies

If you love watching TV but don’t want to just sit there for hours on end, you could take up a cosy hobby like crocheting, knitting, or pom pom making.

Or if you prefer, you could make yourself a pot of tea (so you don’t have to keep jumping up to put the kettle on!) and put on a podcast and do a jigsaw puzzle. All of these things can help your brain untangle after a busy day. There is a raft of fabulous tutorials on Youtube and TikTok if you get stuck.

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Play! 

Take some autumnal photos using your phone camera. You can get different effects if you play with the portrait setting on your phone, including using the phone’s timer setting, and holding it upside down!

Try taking photos of leaves using portrait mode, or take photos of yourself hidden behind a leaf.  Experiment with catching the light behind trees, and over wall tops.

image of some homemade tomato and red pepper soup in a black bowl to depict autumn

Make homemade biscuits and/or homemade soup

Two of my favourite biscuits are ginger biscuits, and melting moments. Ginger biscuits are very easy to make.  https://www.mamacoopskitchen.co.uk/ginger-biscuits/

Soups are wonderful things to make at this time of year. Not only are they a great way to get a good range of nutrients fairly quickly, they’re wonderfully soothing to make.

The chopping of the vegetables into even-sized chunks, the gentle stirring of the vegetables as they start to sweat down in the pan, the blending of the soup once it’s cooked and serving it in warm bowls, with big chunks of cheese on toast, or crunchy croutons just makes it even better. Check out my range of soup recipes here. https://www.mamacoopskitchen.co.uk/recipe-ideas/soups/ 

Let there be light this Autumn 

Don’t come back to a dark house, get your table lamps rigged up to come on around the time you’d be leaving work, so when you arrive home the house is lit up.

You can do this by getting smart plugs for your Alexa, or traditional style timer plugs, or by using smart bulbs.

If you find reaching out of bed on a morning to put the light on is too much of a challenge, try having a table lamp at the other side of your room, set to come on when you want to wake up. 

 

Further Reading:

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/autumn-self-care-tips/ 

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/seasonal-affective-disorder/ 

From Overwhelm to Clarity: 7 Simple Strategies to Calm the Chaos

From Overwhelm to Clarity: 7 Simple Strategies to Calm the Chaos

Mind Body Spirit

7 Simple ways to calm the chaos

Has your life got a bit crazy and chaotic recently?  Do you sometimes find that you do things in a bit of a rush because there doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day, or enough days in the week?! You’re not alone. Sometimes we can get so busy that we end up living in a chaotic state.

Here are my top tips on how to calm the chaos.

image of healthy food meal prepped to illustrate the point of calm to chaos

How do you calm the chaos?

The most important thing you can do is figure out what is causing the problem. Is there a simple step you could take to calm the chaos?

If it’s caused by being busy at meal times and you find yourself constantly eating on the hoof, consider spending a little time prepping some soup or a pasta salad that will last a couple of days, that you can simply dig into when you’re hungry.

Or get a slow cooker and start putting dinner into that first thing in the morning so you can simply dig out your portion when you get home without having to start faffing on making dinner when you’re tired. 

If you find the chaos is caused by not having the right food in when you need to cook it, try ordering your groceries online, or sign up for a fruit and veg box service, and/ or create a meal plan in advance. 

Top Tip:

If you find you run out of key grocery items like dishwasher tablets, tea bags, toilet rolls, etc, try hiding a few in a different cupboard so you ‘run out’ when you’ve actually got a few left.

image of a hand holding a white traditional style alarm clock to illustrate the point of power hour to calm the chaos

Have a power hour

Set a timer for an hour and see how much you can get done. If you find that you’re well into the swing of what you’re doing after the power hour you can of course keep going until the jobs are done or until you’ve had enough, depending on what happens first! 

It can help if you put on some upbeat music (there are some fabulous housework playlists on Spotify) or put on a podcast and get cracking. I’ve added my latest upbeat playlist below! 


It can be helpful to gather up items that are in the wrong place and take them back to where they should be. When I’m tidying my study, the first thing I normally do is to remove any items that belong to anyone else in the family.

You can gather lost items into a laundry basket or cardboard box and then return them to their rightful place in one go! 

image of three boxes to help decluttering to calm the chaos

Have a charity donation box, (and a Vinted account!)

If you have too many clothes, or find that your family has outgrown some of their clothes, try having a charity donations bag or box either in your wardrobe or somewhere more communal like the hall or landing. This way you can simply pop items in as you come across them and then take them to the charity shop when you have a few items gathered up. There are charity collection bins in many supermarket car parks and by local fire stations. 

Or try selling items on Vinted. It’s a free selling site, where you simply upload some good clear photos and an accurate description of your item, set a price and off you go. Download the app or go to www.vinted.co.uk 

Calm the chaos box up anything you dont use

Ditch the clutter

Do you find that you’re ruffling through loads of items that you don’t use to get to the one thing you do want to use? If so you may be drowning in clutter. A good way to stop this is to carefully consider what items you use regularly and put them to one side.

Put all the other things in a box out of the way. Write the date on the box and if after about 90 days you’ve not needed the items in the box you’re probably safe to donate them to charity.

Obviously keep the seasonal stuff separate, there’s no need to donate the Christmas stuff just because you don’t use it in July, August and September! If you find you need an item from the box that’s fine. 

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Do one (or two) loads of laundry every day

If you have a busy household and your laundry basket seems to have a lot in common with the magic porridge pot, try doing a load of washing every day.

Declutter anything that looks raggy or tatty before it goes in the washing machine. Raggy knickers? Bin them! Holey socks? Ditto. Life is too short to wear raggy pants.

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Do similar tasks together

If you have a lot of the same type of task to do, do them all in one go. It can be very distracting if you answer emails as they come in.

Try dealing with emails as a batch, or diarise some time to answer those telephone calls, for example.

Make note of any 2 minute tasks and do those when you’re waiting for the kettle to boil.

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Do a quick daily reset

At the end of the day, throw any children’s toys into a lidded basket, tidy up the sitting room so it looks nice, have a quick wipe around the kitchen, and squirt a little bleach down the loos.

This way it won’t LOOK like chaos when you come down the next day.

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Take a break from the chaos.

Sometimes when life is very chaotic, it can completely get you down and feel overwhelming and impossible to see a way out of.

Taking yourself completely away from the chaos can be really helpful. You don’t have to go far or for a long period of time.

A quick trip to the coast and a bag of chips is often enough.

 

Other Blog posts that you may like

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/lifestyle-audit/ 

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/easy-ways-to-upgrade-your-life/ 

7 Great ways to embrace the energy of summer

7 Great ways to embrace the energy of summer

Thoughts

Summer lends itself to lazy days at home or at the beach, exciting adventures, holidays at home and abroad and a little spontaneity. It’s also perfect for a little al fresco dining, or just simply sitting in your garden for a while once the sun has gone down.

There can be a sense of timelessness during those heady summer days when you can stop watching the clock for a while and simply go with the flow.

It can also be the perfect time for long, solitary walks, time for quiet reflection and much-needed downtime from the hustle and bustle of daily life

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Set a loose structure for those hot summer days

In order to keep some sense of order during the summer months it can be helpful to impose a loose structure to your days. Having meals at similar times and getting up and going to bed at similar times each day can help.

Your body is a creature of habit and loves to know what is likely to come next. It also means you’re less likely to end up feeling hungry, tired or cranky which has to be a good thing, right?! 

Summer energy make a list. Image of woman in a white dress with a note book and dandelions making a bucket list

Make a summer bucket list! 

If you’re up for an adventure this summer, make a list of where you’d like to go and then research their opening times and check if you need to book in advance or whether you can simply rock up on the day.

You could include day trips, holidays, people you’d like to see, places you’d like to go, concerts you’d like to attend, or even that restaurant you keep meaning to try. 

Top Tip:

 

If you’re a member of the National Trust, English Heritage, Historic Houses Association or RHS (and similar national schemes) it can be worth flicking through their handbooks/ websites to see if you can get into any of their partner properties for free or a reduced fee. 

Summer energy keep your swimming kit in your car. Image of woman by a swimming pool wiping her face with a light coloured towel

Be Prepared! 

If you love swimming, try keeping your clean swimming kit in your car boot. Or if you like walking keep your walking boots or a spare pair of trainers in your car. If you like trips to the beach, keep a towel in your car so you can go paddling if you fancy that. An old carrier bag to put soggy swimming stuff is also handy.

You could also get some pretty fairy lights or outside lighting for your patio and keep a basket with blankets etc near the back door so if you fancy sitting outside later in the day you can be cosy and warm without a lot of extra effort! 

Image of a group of friends making smores around a campfire whilst someone plays a guitar. Summer vibes

Be spontaneous.

Invite friends around for a spur of the moment bbq.  Make s’mores on a campfire or fire pit. Make detours to a museum, beach, quaint cafe for afternoon tea, or exhibition if you have time.

Get a blanket and put it on the grass and watch the Perseid shower ( a shooting star display which normally happens around the 12-13th August each year) 

Summer energy image of friends sat around a table dining al fresco with tapas and a bottle of red wine

Be a tourist in your own town or city!

You don’t need to go far to have a fabulous time. You could do the tourist attractions surrounding your home, or take yourself out to a Spanish restaurant for some tapas, or a Turkish restaurant for some meze, for example.

Check out your local castle, cathedral, museum, parks, stately home etc. Hotels often have leaflets of what is going on in the local area if you need some inspiration.

Read my blog post ‘What treasures are on your doorstep”

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You don’t need a long time to have a good time!

We can think that going to the beach or a tourist attraction takes all day. Often it doesn’t! If you have an afternoon or evening to spare, try going to the beach for an hour or two. Have a drive out, a bag of chips and a breath of sea air.

Pop into a stately home instead of a service station (if you have a membership pass of course!) as you travel up and down the country. The loos are often cleaner, and the food nicer (and cheaper), and there’s usually somewhere to stretch your legs. Or pop in for a picnic, or a walk or whatever if you have a spare couple of hours.

Meet friends for a walk and coffee at your local park or go for a walk in a wood rather than at a coffee shop!

Summer energy rest image of woman lounging in hammock in garden, she has dark hair which is tied back

It’s ok to rest a while

Summer lends itself to rest, time out and pursuing hobbies that don’t take much energy. Take an afternoon nap in the shade, read those books you’ve bought but haven’t started yet. Do some journaling or take up watercolour painting.

Read magazines (you can read them on your phone or tablet for free if you sign up to Leeds Library online and use their Libby app!)

Just enjoy the sensation of the sun on your skin and the wind blowing through your hair. You DON’T have to chase through summer at a fast pace (unless you want to!)

Things to try this summer…

 Some of my other blog posts you might enjoy! 

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/time-to-rip-up-the-rule-book/ 

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/uses-and-benefits-of-sweet-orange-essential-oil/ 

10 small daily habits that lead to big wellness wins

10 small daily habits that lead to big wellness wins

Health & Wellbeing

Wellness wins through making small daily changes

Here are my top 10 small daily habits that lead to big wellness wins. If like most people you’re wanting to make a big difference to how you feel but don’t have a huge amount of time and or money these tips are for you!

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Start your day a calmer way

If you’re used to being blasted out of bed by a shrill alarm clock, or a radio alarm clock set to come on on the hour when they’re reading the news, maybe try getting it to come on at 15. 30 or 45 past the hour instead. This way the first thing you hear in the morning isn’t a shrill noise or bad news. If you’re used to a noisy radio channel, maybe try putting your favourite playlist on instead, or a calming radio station like clasicfm calm.

wellness image of a bird on a tree in a wood

Take a few minutes to arrive into the waking world.

For the first few minutes after waking up, don’t touch your phone or your iPad. Take time to open your eyes gently, maybe stretch before getting out of bed, allow yourself time to notice the sound of bird song, or the buzz of the traffic outside.

Take a minute to see how you feel, enjoy the peace for a few minutes.

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Meditate, or at least take some deep breaths

If you’re able to, try spending 5 minutes taking some deep breaths, observing your breath and noticing any thoughts you might have that are distracting your focus away from the breath.

If you catch your thoughts wandering off, gently bring them back to the sensations of the breath going in and out of your nostrils. If you are able to you could spend longer, but even spending 5 mins on this can bring your whole body into a state of calm, ready to face the day.

Image of a plate of poached eggs tomatoes and spinachy for a healthy breakfast

Eat a healthy protein rich breakfast

Ensure you have something filling and protein based for breakfast. Avoid having just toast, or sugary cereal. Breakfast can be a great way of getting extra portions of fruit and vegetables into the whole family. Add fruit to porridge, tomatoes, mushrooms, sliced or smashed avocado and wilted spinach to a cooked breakfast

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Do a short workout if you can to get your body moving

There are loads of great short yoga, pilates and 10 minute morning workouts on youtube, and these are great ways of getting your blood pumping and your body moving again.

Alternatively try going for a short walk around the block even if it’s only for 10 -20 mins. Monikafit does some good 10 min workouts, link here

Tell yourself that today will be a good day, no matter what happens.

By this I mean that whatever happens today, you will respond calmly, and not let it affect the rest of your day. The Mindset Mentor has a fabulous podcast about this on Spotify to listen click here

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Make your bed and tidy your room

Leave the covers off your bed as you take your shower as this helps any moisture created overnight to evaporate a little, but then once you’ve had your shower and your breakfast, make your bed.

Leave your room looking tidy and inviting so that when you come home after a long day it’s there looking nice and like a sanctuary to relax in.

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Keep a journal

Julia Cameron, author of The Artist”s Way suggests that we start each day by writing down three pages of stream of thought writing.

The idea is to get all those floating thoughts and ideas out of your head. Journaling can be a really good way of releasing unhelpful thoughts in a safe way. I find journals useful for saying all the things you’d like to say but can’t, or for working through problems.

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Find glimmers of joy each day

Look for glimmers of hope, the sun shining through the trees, the way the light shines on a glass, beautiful sunrises and sunsets, the taste of your first cup of tea each morning. Relish the compliments you receive (and give others heartfelt compliments too!)

Stick to a regular sleeping and eating pattern where possible.

Your body relishes routine and likes to know what is coming next. Try going to bed at the same time each night and waking up each morning. Eating meals at a similar time of day also helps.

10 small daily habits that lead to big wellness wins jigsaw puzzle

Have a calmer end to the day

Lower the lights, take an evening walk. Try having something to do that doesn’t involve the tv. A jigsaw puzzle, magazine or a book, some art, craft, crochet, knitting, or a notebook and pen and put on some gentle music in the background.

Reset the sitting room and kitchen before you go to bed so you can come down in the morning and not feel grumpy at the mess.

Further Reading

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/easy-ways-to-upgrade-your-life/ 

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/12-little-things-that-changed-my-life/ 

 

7 ways fear gets in the way of living your best life

7 ways fear gets in the way of living your best life

Thoughts

Fear can get in the way of us living our best and fullest lives by preventing us from reaching out and asking for things in case they don’t work out. We worry that we’re not enough so we try ever harder, or we feel like we’re too much so we dampen down our brightness to blend in. All of these things can prevent us from living life to the full. 

image of a woman holding her face as if she is facing the fear of humiliation

Fear of humiliation and rejection

One of the biggest fears that hold us back, is the fear of humiliation and rejection. How many times have you thought about applying for your dream job, but you’ve not actually applied for it in case you don’t get it or in case you get to interview and they ask you something you can’t answer. or ask you to do something you can’t do?

How often have you thought of asking for a discount in a shop but haven’t in case you get humiliated and or rejected? What about in your romantic life? Have you ever considered asking that special person on a date but then shied away in case they screech ‘ew no!’ and run away leaving you feeling rejected and humiliated?

image of a woman rejoicing to illustrate the fear of success

Fear of  success/ failure 

Now I don’t know about you, but I fear success and failure in equal measure. Part of me is scared to do things in case I fail and have to explain to people why I’m no longer doing whatever. So I don’t apply for that course, I don’t apply for that job, I don’t do anything that doesn’t have a virtually guaranteed acceptance rate.

Conversely  I also worry about being hugely successful and not being able to go about my daily life unnoticed. Many years ago a family friend used to shuffle to Spar in his slippers (his words not mine) and even though I have never ever needed to shuffle to Spar in my slippers the thought of being unable to do this terrifies me! 

Image of sassy women smiling to illustrate fear of being too much

Fear of not being enough 

Often we worry that we’re not enough, not pretty enough, not slim enough, not clever enough, not earning enough, not busy enough that we over compensate and end up trying way too hard to be enough.

Our need for perfection in all areas can hold us back from living our best lives because we spend too much time doing things to the highest standard, rather than doing them so they’re done. Trying too hard is exhausting. 

Fear of being too much 

The flip side of not being enough is the fear that we’re too much. Too loud, too confident, too vibrant, too independent, too whacky, too woo woo, too out there. So we dim our flame in an attempt to fit in.

But if you think of the people you like the most, I bet they are the ones who have the confidence to to be their real authentic selves, with bright hair and vibrant clothes and opinions on just about everything. So show your brightest light and let it be a lighthouse for other people to find their way too.

Image of a love heart made out of book pages to illustrate fear of not being loveable enough

Fear of not being loveable enough

We often worry about not being loveable enough. The media screeches at us that we need to be this way and look that way and do this or that in order to be loveable. But in fact we’re loveable just the way we are. We don’t need to have a face lift, loose 20 pounds or be perfect in order to be loved. You are loveable just the way you are.

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Fear of wasting our time

Have you thought of writing a book, or starting a project but worried that if no one reads it or no one needs your product or service, you’ve simply wasted loads of time (and/or loads of money)

If you have, you’re not alone. I was thinking about this the other day then realised that I had spent (wasted?) loads of time watching all 248 episodes of Silent Witness. Time that I COULD have been writing books or starting new business enterprises etc.

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Fear of other people’s thoughts and opinions

Have you ever stopped yourself from doing or wearing something because you worried what other people may think? Maybe you’re stuck in a corporate job that’s sucking the life out of your soul when you’d rather be a travel writer writing travel blogs from a camper van overlooking a beach.

Maybe you want to dye your hair bright colours or wear funky clothes but you think people may laugh or look down on you if you do? Maybe you yearn to downsize your home and your bills to live a simpler life but worry that people won’t get it or will look down on you for having a bijou residence?

Interestingly most people seem to be so wrapped up in their own ‘stuff’ to be that interested in what you’re doing. Those who do have an opinion generally seem to be in awe of what you do, wishing they too had the courage to downsize, free up time or be more vibrant with their look. 

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How to overcome these fears

Know that no one is that bothered about what you do, what you wear, or if you fail or succeed. Most people would be flattered to be asked out, even if they weren’t interested. You absolutely are loveable enough just as you are, and you’re just right for the right person. If you get a rejection see it as as blessing, you can then move on to the next thing/job/person, often there is something much better around the corner.

If you do write a book or start a new business venture you’re likely to learn loads of interesting things even if it doesn’t work out. Most people won’t judge you for trying, and those who do aren’t worth worrying about.

If you are successful you may well be able to get someone else to shuffle to Spar in their slippers  for you. It is safe to be playful and see what happens. 

Other articles you might like

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/how-to-create-the-life-you-want/ 

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/how-to-stop-feeling-overwhelmed/

 

Struggling to concentrate? This may be why!

Struggling to concentrate? This may be why!

Health & Wellbeing

Are you struggling to concentrate? Find it hard to focus on anything for more than a few minutes? You’re not alone. It could be caused by the numerous distractions we face every day. 

Think back to your childhood. Chances are you would have had a postman and a landline, and if you were lucky enough a scattering of children who lived near by that you could hang out with.

As you got a bit older, chances are you would have had a desktop computer which you would sit at and do computer based things, before switching it off again to go about your day. At this point you would have had limited distractions and if you went out for the day you wouldn’t be contactable. So you would have had plenty of time to think and focus. You may have got home to a message on your answering machine, but other than that the time was your own without the constant distractions of today. There simply wasn’t the same amount of things vying for your attention back then.

Email came along and at that time was mainly photos from family, and friends sending jokes and memes to make you laugh, but in smallish quantities so you could easily go back to what you were doing without losing too much focus.

Then we got mobile phones which originally only had texting and calling facilities. It cost loads of money to make calls and send texts so again there were limited distractions.

Compare this to a modern phone with apps and games and social media platforms all vying for what’s left of your concentration, and companies emailing you to persuade you to buy this or that, or demanding for you let them know how highly you rated your trip to the public loo yesterday.

All these notifications make us break our focus and concentration, even if it is for a few seconds at a time. We are used to the excitement of  notifications, especially if we’re looking forward to hearing from someone special or waiting for the outcome of a job interview. On the one hand the notifications drive us mad but on the other we crave those likes on our Facebook posts, those comments on our tiktok videos and people favouriting our items on Vinted! 

We’re also faced with having way too many choices. Back in the day if we went out for coffee we would have a choice of filter coffee or tea. None of this would you like a skinny decaf frapalapacino nonsense back then. Our brains get faced with so many choices about the most mundane of things which cause us to be overstimulated and overstimulation is bad for concentration. We go into shops and are faced with a barrage of sights and sounds and smells, often cleverly crafted to help us make impulse purchases that we think we need but don’t. So we end up overstimulated, running on adrenaline and unable to concentrate fully.

 

What is the solution? How do we make it stop?

Firstly try turning off any unnecessary notifications. Unless you need your phone to ping at you constantly put it on silent or do not disturb. Hide notification badges for any app that you don’t consider to be crucial.

Take some time out where you switch off the tv and radio, put your phone in a different room on silent for a couple of hours. Turn the lights down low or switch them off . Just sit for a while. Sit in silence with no background noise, listen to your inner knowing, let the thoughts that you have come to the surface but don’t engage with them, let them float away, Take some big, long, deep breaths. Turn your email settings onto receiving emails way less frequently. Instead of every few minutes how about having them set to twice a day? *Obviously if you need to see them more often don’t do this, but if you can, try it.

Ensure you put time in your diary to do absolutely nothing so you can sit without distractions and let your body come back into its own natural balance. You will find that you will likely sleep better as you will naturally feel calmer and your stress levels will be reduced. Pencil in times of unbusyness so you can truly switch off and unwind.

Often we don’t realise how busy our lives are until we stop. I know that I didn’t appreciate quite how busy and at times noisy my life was until the other week when I went to a vigil at our local cathedral. There we had low lighting and silence. There were no mobile phones pinging, no notifications from any social media platforms, just companionable silence. Time to sit in silent contemplation. It was almost hypnotic and I could have stayed for longer as it felt super calming and soothing. It was then that I realised what a contrast that was with my usual everyday life. 

 

 

How to have more body confidence

How to have more body confidence

Mind Body Spirit

How to have more body confidence

Have you ever felt self-conscious about your body or wished you had more body confidence? If you’ve ever talked yourself out of doing or wearing something because of the way your body looks, this post is for you.

When I was younger it never occurred to me that there was anything wrong with my body. It was what it was. In those days I had ginger ringlets in my hair and big, bright blue eyes. Adults thought I looked cute, but children took the mickey out of me. I was ‘solidly built’ or ‘big boned’ as my mother would say. But I was ok with that. I couldn’t see what the fuss was about.

Image of three teenage girls reading magazines whilst having their hair wrapped in towels to illustrate body confidence

How to have more body confidence – don’t believe all you read in magazines

Then one fateful day as a teenager I read a quiz in a magazine aimed at teenage girls and no matter what answers you gave, it led you back to the point that you needed to change, that your body was flawed, it even hinted that you should hate one part of your body.  ‘Which bit of your body do you hate the most?’ It screeched. I didn’t hate my body. I don’t hate my body. It is what it is. But it got me thinking. Should I hate my body? Should I be looking for imperfections, or criticising my double chins or knobbly knees?

For years I looked at magazines and felt sad because I wasn’t super thin like ladies of the time in the media. I felt inadequate, unattractive. Worthless at times. This was ‘helpfully’ backed up by the narrative that you could only be attractive or confident if you lost loads of weight or had a conventional look. At the back of my mind I kept thinking was it not ok to simply accept every little bit of my body and just get on with life?

It took me a long, long time after this to realise that actually yes, I can certainly just accept the way my body is and learn to love it, without wasting precious hours worrying if I carry too much weight here, or if parts of me which once were pert and up there are now erm not!

Over the years I came to see that scars from accidents and operations, stretch marks, scars where chicken pox or acne once were, are just telling your story. See every scar and stretch mark like part of the tapestry of your life. I’ve learned to embrace my laughter lines as I only got them because I spent so much time crinkling my eyes up to laugh at something I found funny!

How do you get more body confidence?

Firstly, I would remember that people probably aren’t even thinking about which bits of you aren’t perfect. They’ve probably not even noticed. The truth is they’re more likely to be worrying about their own scars and saggy bits than worrying about yours! Or they might be noticing things they do like about you.

Think about when you meet someone for the first time. Are you conscious of thinking negative thoughts about their saggy bits or scars? I bet you aren’t. If you’re not, chances are they won’t be either. Once you realise that no one actually cares what you look like, you can heave a massive sigh of relief and feel more confident!

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See your body as being exactly right as it is today.

The easiest way to get more body confidence is to see it for what it is, a fantastic. beautiful thing. What do you like about your body? Do you have good legs, or nice eyes? Have people complimented you on having luscious long hair maybe? In turn learn to love all the rest of it, exactly how it is today. Without losing or gaining pounds in weight, without having to shave or pluck it. Just as it is.

By all means do the pruning, shave your legs and paint your toenails if you like but don’t beat yourself up if you’ve not got around to it for a while.

Embrace every tiny part of you and know you are just right exactly how you are. You’re not too big, too fat, too thin, too small, too floppy, too flappy, too tall or too short. You are exactly right, just as you are.

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Accentuate your good bits

Accentuate your good bits – draw attention towards them by wearing things that drag the eyes to what you want them to focus on. A bold piece of jewellery or an interesting lipstick can drag the eyes away from a bad hair day. Or wear interesting boots or jazzy socks or an unusual hat.

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Wear the right clothes

Wear clothes that make you feel good. Good, well-fitting underwear, the right size jeans that fit snuggly but don’t nip you or randomly fall down make all the difference. Experiment with colour, texture and shapes. The right clothes, shoes and accessories can make you feel on top of the world. Ditch any clothes that make you feel awful especially if they don’t look good, or don’t fit properly.

If you have loads of clothes or shoes that you hardly wear, try re-auditioning them. Get them out of the cupboard and wear them once. If you find you still don’t gel with them, either post them on Vinted or donate them to a charity shop or charity donation bin.

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How to get a beach ready body

If you’re worried if your body is ‘beach ready’ believe me, it is! Just grab a bag and your beach stuff and go! I’ve been to the beach 5 times in as many months and honestly just go! I dare you!

Read my other articles 

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/easy-ways-to-improve-your-self-esteem/

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/what-is-self-love/

 

 

 

Burnout – what it is and what you can do about it!

Burnout – what it is and what you can do about it!

Thoughts

What is burnout?

Burnout can be defined as mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion caused by extreme stress or constant pressure, often over a lengthy period of time. It usually comes with a lack of motivation, and even the most enjoyable things in life lose their appeal. If you’ve ever wished the world could stop so you could get off for a while, you may well be suffering with some form of burnout. 

What causes burnout? 

Feeling like you have a lot of pressure, a stressful job, not enough hours in the day, not enough time to enjoy hobbies. Pressure you put yourself under to do a great job or be perfect can also lead to burn out. Masking to fit in with others in society can also lead to burnout. Having a lot of deadlines close together without any reprieve can also cause burnout. 

Physically people may burn out when they’re doing too much exercise, not getting enough sleep and /or not having regular healthy meals. 

How do I avoid burnout?

Firstly see if there is anything you can delegate to someone else – do you have to do everything on your list yourself? Often we can lessen our workloads by outsourcing things we don’t need to do ourselves to someone else. This may also include hiring a gardener or a cleaner (or both!)

If you’re struggling at work with your workload or are struggling to understand what is expected of you it may help to speak to your manager or supervisor to get their support and understanding. They may be able to lighten your load in some way.

Secondly ensure that you get the things you physically need. Enough sleep, plenty of good quality protein, fruit and vegetables. Staying hydrated. If you hate drinking water try adding something to it to make it taste better like a slice of lemon, or lime or cucumber. Or add ice or have it hot. 

Give yourself enough headspace and blank slots in the diary. We all need time to unwind, rest, potter and socialise. If your diary is looking too full see what you can cross out of it so you have time to do the things you love.

If possible have early nights or at least time each evening to unwind. Maybe switch off the tv, dim the lighting a little bit, put on some soft music or some candles and just breathe deeply.

The other week I was feeling a bit burned out so I got myself a jigsaw from the charity shop, put on a podcast and made a cup of tea and had a super chilled out evening mindfully putting the puzzle pieces in the right place! 

Think about what nourishes you emotionally and spiritually. Who and what makes your heart sing or set your soul on fire? Do more of the things that make you happy and avoid things that are negative for the sake of being negative. So switch off the news channels and unfollow the negative people from social media. Unfollow friends who always moan on social media.

Have something to look forward to – could be days out, meeting friends for coffee or lunch, play time for arts and crafting, trips to the coast, holidays, concerts or time to simply do nothing! 

What do I do if I burn out?

Cancel everything you can possibly cancel! Sometimes we just need to have a deep rest and reset.

Eat light foods that are nourishing and comforting. Cocoon yourself in a blanket. Go for walks or swims and get some fresh air. Take as many naps as you need. Watch funny movies, put on some cartoons. do some crafting. But be gentle on yourself and allow yourself the time to simply be for a while. Don’t push yourself to do anything strenuous. Talk nicely to yourself like you would talk to your best friend. Go gently. Keep stimulation to a minimum. If necessary dim the lights and put on soft music. Do the bare minimum you need to do to get through each day until you start to feel better.

Focus on getting plenty of sleep. Sleep helps to restore us and is great for the soul. You may need to invest in some blackout blinds or heavy curtains, or to buy a pillow mist, play a sleep podcast, get some different bedding – experiment with pillow heights and heavy blankets, often we need weighing down and the right pillow in order for us to be able to sleep effectively.

If you’re waking up in the night try having a little light supper before bed, especially something that involves some protein and carbohydrates. Having a set routine to going to bed and getting up again can be helpful as can having set meal times.

Have a series of massages, reflexology treatments or reiki sessions to unwind and support you. Managing stress is key with burnout. Alternatively look into mindfulness classes or something relaxing like yoga nidra.

Once you start to feel less burned out and feel like you’re on the road to recovery think about how you’d like your life to look. What would that look like? What steps can you take to make it happen? Sometimes we need to tweak things a little bit in order to create a life that supports and nourishes us.

This may include working fewer hours or changing roles entirely. Or it could involve giving up a volunteering role, or looking for something more in alignment with your current values and aspirations! It could be starting a new hobby or side hustle giving you a renewed sense of purpose. Often when we get burned out we lose that motivation and our va va voom! Having a really good reason to get out of bed on a morning can help ease burnout. 

Things to try:

Try my chicken and leek soup recipe for something that’s restorative https://www.mamacoopskitchen.co.uk/chicken-and-leek-soup/

 

Read my articles on sleep 

How long does burnout take to pass over?

This largely depends on the individual and how burned out they were. If you have a mild case of burnout it may pass over in as little as a few weeks but more extreme cases may take months or even years to pass over. 

How do I ensure burnout doesn’t happen again?

Whilst there are no guarantees that it won’t happen again, watch out for the warning signs, the sinking into mental, physical and emotional exhaustion and notice when motivation starts to dwindle and top up your levels with things that you love doing and attempt to delegate anything you as an individual don’t need to do yourself. Ensure that you always have something to look forward to and enough sleep, rest, exercise, water and good food. If you do find yourself heading towards burnout go gently on yourself for a while until it goes away again!

 

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