What is Self Care and why do you need to prioritise it?

What is Self Care and why do you need to prioritise it?

What is Self Care?

Self Care is defined as ‘the deliberate and unselfish act of caring for yourself’. By acknowledging your own needs and ensuring these needs are met you set yourself up for being the best you can be.

If you are nourished, emotionally replenished, strong, calm, resilient and happy you are much more able to take on whatever the world throws at you.

What happens if you don't prioritise your own self care?

What happens if you don’t prioritise your own self care?

If you don’t prioritise your own self care you will end up in a wilted, crumpled heap unable to help anyone. Your own, internal batteries will be so low that you will be completely out of power.

Without prioritising your own self care you are likely to end up feeling ill or depleted. Your stress levels are likely to be sky high as you won’t get a minute to think straight. You won’t be able to keep on giving, giving, giving as there won’t be anything left of you to give!

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Why should you prioritise your own self care?

You should prioritise your own self care so you can be strong and well. You’ll also have more energy, be more likely to be a better mood and be less snappy with your family and colleagues.

If you have had some time to yourself you are more likely to be able to think straight and be rested. Self care is a bit like refuelling your car. You wouldn’t expect that to keep on running indefinitely without giving it a service, topping up the fuel levels and giving it an occasional break!

Why should you prioritise self care

What kind of things count as self care?

When we think of self care we often think of hot bubbly baths or boxes of chocolates. I believe there is more to it than that. It is about looking after your own health and wellbeing, of taking breaks, having some time out, following hobbies, nurturing friendships and taking time for deep rest. It’s about taking a walk and getting some fresh air, having a laugh with a friend, enjoying a healthy relationship and eating a nourishing, balanced diet.

It is doing whatever it is that makes you feel happy, vibrant and alive.

We are all different, for some of us having time alone is not fulfilling but others love solitude. It could be reading a book or going for a 10k run. Or going to a yoga class, or reading a magazine. It could be creating some art or climbing a mountain. Whatever makes you feel like you’re on top of the world! It could be having a monthly massage or reflexology treatment or going for a swim.

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Isn’t self care selfish?

No! Not at all. Self care gives you permission to be the healthiest, most vibrant person you can be. This allows you to be able to offer your support to others. Self care done properly is anything BUT selfish. In fact you could argue that NOT prioritising your own self care is selfish! 

How do I prioritise my own self care?

You can prioritise your own self care by saying NO to anything or anyone who is no longer sparking joy in your life. There are probably things that you are doing regularly that could be delegated to someone else or crossed off your to do list for ever.

Pencil yourself into your own diary and mark yourself as busy for that time. Do not let anyone encroach on this time. It is important.

Take small steps towards self care. This could be eating an extra portion of fruit with breakfast or having a glass of water whilst the kettle boils. It could be dancing whilst you wait for the kettle or walking to the post box. It could be taking a duvet day once in a while or wrapping up warm and going for a long walk.

What can you do today to start you on your self care journey?

Think of one thing that you can do today to get you started on your self care journey. It could be having an early night, cancelling an unwanted commitment, taking a walk after dinner, arranging to meet a friend for lunch, or booking yourself in for a reflexology treatment! 

Tomorrow pick something else and do that. Eventually taking care of yourself will become second nature and hopefully you’ll be the happiest, healthiest version of you possible.

Go on.. you’re worth it!

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Self Love: What is it and why is it important?

Self Love: What is it and why is it important?

Love is in the air!

Some of you will be lucky in love and others less so but one thing that we can all do is give ourselves some self love.

What is self love? 

Self love is giving yourself praise when praise is due. Playfully noting what could be improved without criticising yourself too harshly, ensuring your own needs are met in a healthy way.

Looking after your mind, body and spirit and ensuring that you treat yourself as kindly as you would treat other people.

It’s about appreciating yourself for who you are and acknowledging that you are loveable and worthwhile just the way you are.


How can we practice self love?

Set Boundaries

By setting boundaries for our time, energy and behaviour. It is important to know what your priorities are and to ring-fence some time for yourself. Not in a selfish way but in a way that shows that your hobbies and interests are important too and that it is ok to say no sometimes. 

It is about setting boundaries which states the kind of behaviour you find acceptable and that which you do not, both from yourself and from other people. 

People respect boundaries as it keeps everyone safe. Having no rules and no codes of conduct creates chaos.

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Taking care of your body

Take care of your body by eating a balanced diet rich in nutrients but which also allows for occasional treats.

Look after your skin by using good quality skin care products and moisturise your feet regularly before bed by massaging a little good quality foot or body lotion into your feet. 

Get plenty of fresh air, even if it is just a gentle stroll around the block, walking to the shop to get a newspaper or having a potter around your garden in the sunshine. This can help lift low mood and get the blood pumping.


Be gentle on yourself

Be gentle on yourself by letting go of any need for perfectionism. Instead aim for praising yourself wherever praise is due. Be playful when learning new things. Experiment and then tweak your method for next time.

When I first qualified as a Therapist, I found my need for perfection paralysing, as I was too scared to practice in case I came across something that I did not know the answer to, or a condition I didn’t know how to treat.

Over time I’ve realised that it is ok to acknoweldge if I don’t know something and it’s also ok to refer clients on if I am not able to offer them the best solution to their current challenges. It’s given me opportunity to practice and refine what I offer. In such a way that I’m not beating myself up if I don’t have every answer to every conceivable problem available to me at that exact moment!

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Praise yourself for how far you’ve come

We are all making progress all the time and it is often not until we stop and take a look back to what we’ve overcome that we realise how much progress we have actually made. So look back at your journey so far, with kind eyes. You’ve come so far, you’ve got this

Crystals useful for self-love

Rose quartz crystals are great for helping you with unconditional love and self-acceptance. The warm pink tones of the rose quartz crystals are wonderfully heartwarming. Rose quartz is great for helping you find things, including a healthy relationship with yourself and others.

Rhodochrosite is another pinkish crystal which is useful for self-love, helping to connect you to your highest good.

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Helpful Essential Oils for self-love

Rose essential is the queen of essential oils, great for the heart chakra and for helping you feel warm towards yourself. Neroli is also very helpful as is Geranium. Both are very nurturing oils.

Frankincense essentia oil is also very good  

Where to buy Essential Oils

When buying essential oils it is always important to buy them from a reputable retailer. The best essential oil retailers are listed on the Aromatherapy Trade Council website.

See https://www.a-t-c.org.uk


I am a Neal’s Yard Remedies Organic Consultant and you can buy essential oils from my replicated website. I will receive a percentage of any sales made via my replicated website.

Here is their essential oils page

Resources: https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/frankincense-essential-oil-a-hug-in-a-bottle/


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