How to stop feeling overwhelmed

What is burnout?

Burnout can be defined as mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion caused by extreme stress or constant pressure, often over a lengthy period of time. It usually comes with a lack of motivation, and even the most enjoyable things in life lose their appeal. If you’ve ever wished the world could stop so you could get off for a while, you may well be suffering with some form of burnout. 

What causes burnout? 

Feeling like you have a lot of pressure, a stressful job, not enough hours in the day, not enough time to enjoy hobbies. Pressure you put yourself under to do a great job or be perfect can also lead to burn out. Masking to fit in with others in society can also lead to burnout. Having a lot of deadlines close together without any reprieve can also cause burnout. 

Physically people may burn out when they’re doing too much exercise, not getting enough sleep and /or not having regular healthy meals. 

How do I avoid burnout?

Firstly see if there is anything you can delegate to someone else – do you have to do everything on your list yourself? Often we can lessen our workloads by outsourcing things we don’t need to do ourselves to someone else. This may also include hiring a gardener or a cleaner (or both!)

If you’re struggling at work with your workload or are struggling to understand what is expected of you it may help to speak to your manager or supervisor to get their support and understanding. They may be able to lighten your load in some way.

Secondly ensure that you get the things you physically need. Enough sleep, plenty of good quality protein, fruit and vegetables. Staying hydrated. If you hate drinking water try adding something to it to make it taste better like a slice of lemon, or lime or cucumber. Or add ice or have it hot. 

Give yourself enough headspace and blank slots in the diary. We all need time to unwind, rest, potter and socialise. If your diary is looking too full see what you can cross out of it so you have time to do the things you love.

If possible have early nights or at least time each evening to unwind. Maybe switch off the tv, dim the lighting a little bit, put on some soft music or some candles and just breathe deeply.

The other week I was feeling a bit burned out so I got myself a jigsaw from the charity shop, put on a podcast and made a cup of tea and had a super chilled out evening mindfully putting the puzzle pieces in the right place! 

Think about what nourishes you emotionally and spiritually. Who and what makes your heart sing or set your soul on fire? Do more of the things that make you happy and avoid things that are negative for the sake of being negative. So switch off the news channels and unfollow the negative people from social media. Unfollow friends who always moan on social media.

Have something to look forward to – could be days out, meeting friends for coffee or lunch, play time for arts and crafting, trips to the coast, holidays, concerts or time to simply do nothing! 

What do I do if I burn out?

Cancel everything you can possibly cancel! Sometimes we just need to have a deep rest and reset.

Eat light foods that are nourishing and comforting. Cocoon yourself in a blanket. Go for walks or swims and get some fresh air. Take as many naps as you need. Watch funny movies, put on some cartoons. do some crafting. But be gentle on yourself and allow yourself the time to simply be for a while. Don’t push yourself to do anything strenuous. Talk nicely to yourself like you would talk to your best friend. Go gently. Keep stimulation to a minimum. If necessary dim the lights and put on soft music. Do the bare minimum you need to do to get through each day until you start to feel better.

Focus on getting plenty of sleep. Sleep helps to restore us and is great for the soul. You may need to invest in some blackout blinds or heavy curtains, or to buy a pillow mist, play a sleep podcast, get some different bedding – experiment with pillow heights and heavy blankets, often we need weighing down and the right pillow in order for us to be able to sleep effectively.

If you’re waking up in the night try having a little light supper before bed, especially something that involves some protein and carbohydrates. Having a set routine to going to bed and getting up again can be helpful as can having set meal times.

Have a series of massages, reflexology treatments or reiki sessions to unwind and support you. Managing stress is key with burnout. Alternatively look into mindfulness classes or something relaxing like yoga nidra.

Once you start to feel less burned out and feel like you’re on the road to recovery think about how you’d like your life to look. What would that look like? What steps can you take to make it happen? Sometimes we need to tweak things a little bit in order to create a life that supports and nourishes us.

This may include working fewer hours or changing roles entirely. Or it could involve giving up a volunteering role, or looking for something more in alignment with your current values and aspirations! It could be starting a new hobby or side hustle giving you a renewed sense of purpose. Often when we get burned out we lose that motivation and our va va voom! Having a really good reason to get out of bed on a morning can help ease burnout. 

Things to try:

Try my chicken and leek soup recipe for something that’s restorative https://www.mamacoopskitchen.co.uk/chicken-and-leek-soup/

 

Read my articles on sleep 

How long does burnout take to pass over?

This largely depends on the individual and how burned out they were. If you have a mild case of burnout it may pass over in as little as a few weeks but more extreme cases may take months or even years to pass over. 

How do I ensure burnout doesn’t happen again?

Whilst there are no guarantees that it won’t happen again, watch out for the warning signs, the sinking into mental, physical and emotional exhaustion and notice when motivation starts to dwindle and top up your levels with things that you love doing and attempt to delegate anything you as an individual don’t need to do yourself. Ensure that you always have something to look forward to and enough sleep, rest, exercise, water and good food. If you do find yourself heading towards burnout go gently on yourself for a while until it goes away again!

 

Do you feel overwhelmed?

Overwhelm often occurs when we have a heap of different urgent priorities all needing our attention all at once! It can be hard knowing where to start or what to tackle first. 

What causes us to feel overwhelmed?

Sometimes we’re overwhelmed by the pressures of work or studying, family commitments, a messy and cluttered house,  a sudden change in circumstances like a house move, redundancy, divorce or bereavement or maybe even a welcome, planned event like a wedding. 

Just the very thought of what we need to do to sort out the problem can have us heading towards a panic attack or leave us having a sleepless night, night after night.

I know when my mother died and I was left to empty her house out, I sat at the kitchen table with my head in my hands and a strong cup of tea, wondering where on earth to start! 

 

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Gather supplies and resources

Before you do anything, gather up supplies and resources.

This may include getting a notebook and pen to jot down ideas rather than having a myriad of bits of paper floating around! 

It could be gathering up a selection of snacks and drinks to sustain you or clearing a space to work. The first thing I did when I started clearing out my mothers house was to create a patch where I could make coffee and tea and reheat soup. This made life a lot easier. 

If you’re starting a desk based project it may be useful to clear your desk off before you begin so you’ve got a clear space to work. 

If you’re decluttering you may need things like bin bags and cleaning products, or labels and storage boxes for things you’re planning on keeping.

If you’ve got a lot of documents which you need to have all to hand it may be useful to buy a display folder and pop them in the clear plastic wallets there.

You may want to make a list of the important tasks you need to do or to do some journaling to get all the thoughts, feelings and ideas you have out on paper thus making space in your head! 

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Look after yourself first

Often if you’re feeling overwhelmed the last thing you want to do is eat big meals but having a protein rich breakfast can set you up for the day.

Drinking plenty of water, getting enough sleep if you possibly can and taking regular breaks are essential. 

If you have a slow cooker it can be helpful to load something into that in the morning so you have a cooked meal to look forward to in the evening with not much extra effort.

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Where do you start? 

When faced with a problem that seems overwhelming it can difficult knowing where to start! If you’re overwhelmed by a work issue, speak to your boss about what to prioritise and what to park up for now. This should reduce your workload a little bit.

If it’s a home based or personal project, work out what is going to be make the biggest impact and do that first. 

If you’re decluttering, it can be useful to just simply pick somewhere to start. Good places to start are the smallest room or the room which will give the biggest impact, often this is either your bedroom, the bathroom or the kitchen.

If you’re not sure where to start decluttering in a room try gathering up one type of thing, so the rubbish, the laundry, the things that shouldn’t be in that room, any plates and cups, clothes etc. Once you’ve rounded up and processed one group of things, start on the next 🙂

 

Top Tip:
If you can’t get going, try setting a timer for 25 mins and tell yourself that after 25 mins you can stop if you want to!


It can be useful to run the timer again if you do stop so after 25 mins you get going again!

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Enlist the help of friends and family

One way to stop feeling overwhelmed is to enlist the help of other people either for moral support, practical help, advice, contacts and information or simply to spur you on when the going gets tough.

Have a think around your friendship circle. Who could you potentially ask for help?

Before you start to worry about whether you’d be bothering your friends, think how much pleasure you get out of helping other people 🙂 

Often if you have someone helping you, you don’t feel as overwhelmed and have someone to bounce ideas off

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Be your own best friend

You’re probably wondering why on earth there’s a picture of a pink fluffy parrot? Well if you’re anything like me you’ll probably have a negative narrative constantly running in the background telling yourself that you’re rubbish and that you should be more able to cope with whatever life throws at you!

It is way more helpful if you can change the narrative to one of positivity. Be your own best friend, your own biggest advocate, your own biggest source of praise.

Be gentle on yourself. Instead of telling yourself how rubbish you are, how you can’t do this, how it’s too big, too scary, too much, too overwhelming, start telling yourself that you’ve got this, that you can do it, that you’re capable of getting through this and coming out the other side. This too will pass!

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Take regular breaks and time out

When feeling overwhelmed it is important to keep taking regular breaks and time out. This will help you stay sane! Good things to do to stop feeling overwhelmed include going for a walk, listening to uplifting or calming music, or doing your hobbies.

Having a day off actively working on whatever is overwhelming you can also be helpful. When I was sorting out my mothers’ house I used to take Friday off so I could concentrate on something else. This used to mean I had the strength to keep on until the job was done! 

Top Tip:

Try diffusing a calming essential oil blend like this one https://uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/sjcooper/product/2710/aromatherapy-blend-calming-10ml 

 

Further Reading:

https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/easy-ways-to-get-yourself-out-of-a-funk/ 

About Sarah Cooper

I am a Reflexologist, Aromatherapist, Reiki Master Practitioner, Massage Therapist and Writer from Boroughbridge, North Yorkshire. I love writing about Health and Wellbeing, Mind Body Spirit and Reflexology. When I'm not at work, you can find me in the kitchen cooking up a storm!

If you'd like to book a treatment please go to https://www.sarahcooper.co.uk/book

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