Confession Time – Why I was struggling to get a good night’s sleep

Confession Time – Why I was struggling to get a good night’s sleep

Confession time: I’ve not slept well recently.  Okay okay when I say recently, I mean for the last 13 years.

It took me a bit of fathoming out why this was the case. I mean I’ve written articles on how to get a good night’s sleep on my blog! I KNOW THE THEORY of how to get to sleep. I could stand up and give you a half hour long talk on how to get to sleep and how to stay asleep but could I do it myself?  No!

It wasn’t until having a recent reflexology treatment that it dawned on me how long the problem had been going on for.

‘So how long have you not been sleeping for?’ My therapist asked. I pondered this for a minute or two then realised that I’d not really had a good night’s sleep since 2009.

why I was struggling to get a good night's sleep image of person using a mobile phone in their bed

Where the problems started

It all started when I moved house and for a week I hadn’t got a landline telephone. Being the only adult in my household I knew I needed the ability to get help (should I need it quickly) so I’d started taking my mobile phone up to my room with me. Back in those days phones were a bit like 1970s tv in that they had limited capability and people were not overly fond of messaging people in the middle of the night in case they got woken up.

However as time went on I kept on taking my phone upstairs with me. It charged up by my bedside. My new phone helpfully has a little red light so you can find it in the middle of the night and will happily flash if you get a notification. Really conducive for a good nights sleep (not!) 

Tea really didn’t help much either

Now as some of you know I’m also a great fan of coffee and tea . So curling up in bed last thing with a book (on my iPad, yes more technology!) and a nice cup of the finest tea the chimps will drink also wasn’t helping me get a good night’s sleep either. The caffeine was leaving me jittery and needing the loo in the night! 

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Shut the door!

To cap it all I’d got into the habit of leaving my bedroom door open. My bedroom is fairly small and I am a bit of a free spirit so having the door open felt freeing. It made me feel connected with my children who may need me in the night.

When I figured out that I’d been taking my phone to bed with me for 13 years longer than I actually needed to, it also made me realise that I’d been leaving the door open so I could hear my children if they needed me.

By the way, when I say children, I mean ADULT children. They’re all in their early twenties and have more than enough capability of opening my door if they need me.

It felt like by shutting the door I’d be shutting them out. I realise now this is just downright silly. Plus after reading an article from the local Fire and Rescue service leaving my bedroom door open was downright dangerous according to them.

a pine bed and bedside table piled high with white pillows

All change!

When I was changing my bedsheets last I looked down at my pillows. They’d seen better days I have to say. Then I realised that they were so old I’m surprised the local museum hadn’t been to collect them. They’d moved house with us 3 times! So I’ve bought new pillows and a pretty pillow spray in the hope that that would help.

My phone now charges itself up downstairs in my office. I’m no longer distracted with videos of people squeezing spots on Tiktok at 3am. Now I have no flashing phone light keeping me awake. I’ve now got time on a morning to start the day in a more positive way. I can look at my phone when I’m ready rather than it emitting it’s shining light across the room at me shouting ‘pick me pick me!’ at all hours.

  • My new pillows and spray have made all the difference to my comfort levels.
  • I’ve brought my last cup of tea forward by an hour or two so I’m not needing the loo at 3am
  • My bedroom door is now more or less shut but still able to be opened, even by the cat 
  • If people leave a light on on the landing/bathroom/all the lights on in the entire house (you know what young people are like!) I now don’t get woken up by this either.
  • I have two heavy blankets on my bed which gives me a sense of being weighed down and safe.
  • I’ve set an alarm on my Alexa so I don’t need to rely on having 47 different alarms on my phone to wake me up.

And do you know what?! It is working. I am now sleeping better. I am starting to wake up feeling refreshed and ready to tackle the day.

 The tweaks I made to my bedtime routine were small, and the pillows and pillow spray weren’t hugely expensive but made a massive difference.


Over to you!

What area of your life do you struggle with most? Are there any similarly small tweaks you could do today to make a huge difference? Please leave a message in the comments box below.

Indian Head Massage Aftercare Advice

Indian Head Massage Aftercare Advice

Indian Head Massage Aftercare advice

After your Indian Head Massage it is important that you are fully alert before driving home. It can have a deeply relaxing effect on you, so it is important that you’re fully present when you leave the treatment room.

Keep hydrated for the rest of the day.

Whilst it is also a good idea to drink plenty of water BEFORE your treatment, it is vital that you keep hydrated after your treatment. Sipping mineral water (maybe with a slice of lemon added) is perfect. If you prefer a hot drink have a mug of hot water with a slice of lemon added, or drink herbal teas.

Avoid Caffeine and Alcohol

Where possible avoid caffeine and alcohol for the rest of the day.

Avoid smoking and try to have a peaceful afternoon if possible. If you can, schedule your appointment in for a day when you can take the rest of the day off to rest and allow the treatment to fully sink in.

If possible, delay having your shower or bath

If your therapist has used oils it can be helpful to let them settle overnight, so wherever possible avoid having a bath or shower after your treatment. If you really can’t bear it have a warm shower or bath and apply shampoo to your hair whilst it is still dry for maximum effect.

Avoid Conflict

If possible, avoid conflict and anything that may jolt you out of the wonderful blissful fug you are likely to be in. It is advisable not to watch television. If you do watch the television keep the programmes you watch to ones that are soothing and uplifting. I would strongly recommend that you avoid watching the news as they rarely mention any good news. Instead try reading a book or magazine and listening to some soft music.

Try to avoid spicy foods and heavy meals if possible. Keep your diet light and nutritious and don’t eat anything that may put an additional strain on your body.

How may I feel after an Indian Head Massage?

  • Hopefully you will fill deeply relaxed and chilled out after your massage
  • Some people may feel sleepy or tired, others refreshed and energised. 
  • You may feel clearer headed and more able to concentrate
  • You may feel emotional, irritable or weepy, or feel like laughing
  • You may have a good nights sleep afterwards although some people find that they feel a little restless
  • You may feel like using the loo one more one way or another (or both!) or you may feel a little flue-y or have a slight headache. If you do, rest and drink plenty of water, this usually passes within 24-48 hours
  • You may have a feeling of soreness or aching on your muscles or joints. Again rest and drink plenty of water.


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What is Indian Head Massage?

What is Indian Head Massage?

Indian Head Massage as its name suggests is a massage originally from India which focuses attention on the head.

Traditionally in India women would use oils and massage as a way of keeping their hair strong and in good condition whereas men would have some form of head massage when they visited the barbers.

Indian Head Massage as we know it today was introduced to the UK by Narendra Mehta in the 1970s when he came over to England to study and realised that over here, massage was only offered on the body not the scalp.

Indian Head Massage is very versatile and can be done either seated on a chair or laying on a massage couch.

If you prefer it can be done with oils or if you have an important event afterwards or are taking public transport home you can have it without oils.

Where no oils are being used there is no need to remove any clothes as it can be done fully clothed. Although you may wish to pop your shoes off.

What does Indian Head Massage Involve?

Indian Head Massage not only includes massage to the head and scalp, but also the neck, shoulders, upper back and face. as well as rebalancing the upper three chakras.

If you find that you’ve been carrying tension in your upper back, neck and shoulders, Indian Head Massage should help release that by kneading the muscles.

The face massage helps bring nutrients to the surface as well as improve lymphatic drainage. reduce muscle tension, especially in your jaw. This will help to improve the appearance of your skin and may relieve headaches and migraines

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